After I said yes to THE ultimate question and the butterflies in my stomach have calmed down, I started to pull out my “dream wedding” list (it’s almost all girls’ mental list of the wedding dress designer, photographer, venue, shoes, illustrator, etc, etc, etc, that they want to have on D day). I even contacted my favorite illustrator the day after Alex popped the question. Later did I learn that having a wedding of your dream is so friggin’ darn expensive.
Since we finance the wedding fully by ourselves and the fact that wedding day is just a beginning of our marriage (common sense kicked in at the right time!), we decided to pick 3 elements that we’re willing to splurge on; wedding venue, photographer and wedding dress. The others will be “examined” extra carefully since the budget is not over the roof and we (and by we, of course I mean me) decided to go all the DIY way with Pinterest as my Bible. I was thinking about paper flowers, DIY and personalized party favor and table setting, personalized Bali guide book etc etc etc. Some of my friends think I might get bridezilla syndrome but I did enjoy crafting a lot to a point that it became my therapy.
If you think that DIY is cheaper way to go, you’re not totally wrong. The downside is the time and effort will, at some point, exhaust you till your head wants to explode and you just want to throw away all the half-done stuffs (no kidding). You’ll become very much clingy to your scissors, glue gun, puncher, double tape, etc etc. But if you ask me, if I could turnback time, I’d still chose the DIY way. Why? Because I had fun crafting everything and the time when we and our family and friends did the DIY and handcraft thingy is actually one of the best time during our wedding preparation. There’s also story in each and every wedding stuffs that create another indescribable joy whenever we saw it. Cheaper cost is another plus point too.
So now, as a sober DIY bride, here are things that I learn during my journey. (p.s. In case you ask,our wedding theme is spring with watercolor flowers)
1. Look to the sky but keep your feet on the ground.
After snooping around Pinterest, you probably have tons of ideas that you want to DIY. But, be still,my friend.. sit down and jot down all the ideas then match it with your timeline and venue. Do you have time to do it all? Is it possible to have it hung / done in your wedding venue?
Tips. Start crafting only after your confirm the venue and date (+theme and color). Then create a final list of things to DIY and stick to it. Make sure it’s all done 1 month before D-day and don’t sacrifice your resting time. Your pretty and happy face will dominate the wedding photo album, not the hand-stitched banner or the handwritten place cards.
What is your main purpose in DIY-ing your wedding? Is it the budget? Is it your personal satisfaction in crafting and seeing all the wedding stuffs are made with love by you (and all the entourage)? Or you want to create more memories into your wedding preparation since it’s once in a lifetime? Whatever it is, always remember the purpose. It helps you keep going whent things get tough.
For me, DIY allowed me to do things out of my gratitude to make people feel appreciated and cared about. That’s why I love DIY.
Tips. If time is limited, pick things to do based on your main purpose.
3. Ask for help
Yes, you can’t do it alone. As crafty as you are and as much as you don’t want to bother anyone, you need help, before and on D day.If you look around, you will find a bunch of friends and family who try to offer their help.
Tips. Cutting, folding, glueing are so much fun to do with more people. The more the merrier!
4. Consider the experts / professional help
You plan to hand-draw all the watercolor flowers and hand-write all the calligraphy title by yourself, but in your heart you know that your skill is still so far from okay (story of me and my ambitious plan), maybe it’s time to seek for professional help. It’s said that you need 10.000 hours to master a skill. if you don’t have time, let’s find someone who already mastered it.
5. What you wear is important.
Spare some time to think about what you and your partner will wear on D day that can add excitement to both of you.
Tips. This cute stuff will take more parts in your wedding photos album than your DIY photo booth and wedding favor. It also gives the photographer more things to play around too.
5. Have a hashtag!
In a world and time like this, having a hashtag is the same as creating your photo album from different source of “photographers”. Plus point, you can see the photo album updated in real time. Don’t forget to introduce this hashtag and ask the guests to participate.
Tips. As the king and queen of the day, you can’t go out and about, running around freely. You’ll wonder what happens outside. With hashtag, you can have the guests to be your journalists of the day and you can see your nuptial through the eyes of your guests.
6. Enjoy the ride!
This is the most important lesson that I’ve learnt so far. This preparation time only comes once and it’s a waste to have this season filled only with frustration. Don’t force yourself out. Spend time with your partner and embrace this moment of your lifetime. A week before D day, focus on yourself. If there’s so many things haven’t been DIY-ed, ask for help or just let it go. At the end of the day, the most important thing is the celebration of your lifetime marriage to the love of your life.
Tips. Though it has been carefully considered and thouroughly coordinated, a thing or two might don’t go as planned, it is okay… Focus on your joy and your newly wedded husband. And, the guest most probably won’t notice it anyway. Just smile and let your happiness shine through it. It will make you the most beautiful bride.
p.s. Would love to see your DIY wedding stories, too. 🙂